imdatfeminist exists for one reason — helping women rebuild self-love and find the strength to walk away from relationships that shrink them.
Too many women stay in relationships that cost them their sense of self, because leaving feels harder than staying, or because they've forgotten what they're worth outside of someone else's approval.
imdatfeminist was built to close that gap: between knowing something is wrong and actually having the tools, language, and community to do something about it.
We're not therapists and we're not here to tell you what to do with your relationship. We're here to remind you that self-love isn't selfish — and to walk with you while you rebuild it.
a sister act, obviously ✧
The visionary and icon behind imdatfeminist — the voice, the vision, and the reason this whole thing exists in the first place.
Hallie's sister and right hand woman — the editor behind imdatfeminist, whose eye has helped shape the vision, voice, and overarching themes that define the brand.
A quick note: early press (including our NBC feature) named only Hallie. That was Mimi's choice at the time, made for privacy reasons — not because she wasn't there. Mimi has been the editor of imdatfeminist since the beginning.
imdatfeminist is run day-to-day by sisters Hallie & Mimi on Instagram and Twitter — built from everything they wished someone had told them sooner.
delete his number. block him. protect your peace.
straight from the feed ✧
If you catch yourself BEGGING someone for... human decency? a response? time together? clarity? respect?... You need to take a step back and realize that you're begging someone for the bare minimum.
view on x →Pay attention to PATTERNS, not potential. Patterns have happened. Over and over. There is a pattern of behavior when it comes to the ways that this person has let you down, hurt you and disappointed you. Potential? Hasn't happened, and who knows if it will? Trust patterns.
view on x →Breakups hurt. You know what REALLY fucking hurts? Trying to "make it work" with someone who has PROVEN to you TIME AND TIME AGAIN that they do not give a fuck about your feelings. THAT hurts.
view on x →Realizing that you're incompatible with someone (because they don't meet your BASIC standards of courtesy, respect and reciprocation) and choosing to walk away instead of forcing it/blaming yourself/fantasizing about their potential is a superpower. Look how much you've grown.
view on x →It should disgust you when someone isn't sure of you. When they want you sometimes. Or only parts of you, not all of you. It should make you feel violently ill to spend a second thinking about or spending time with someone who doesn't completely and utterly VALUE you. And RESPECT YOU. And want you in their life. All of you. And feel LUCKY that you are there with them. And CARE ABOUT YOU. The same way you care about them. You will never settle for crumbs again once you realize that you just.. don't have to. "Take it or leave it," their actions, their inaction and apathy will tell you. So leave it. They can take their crumbs and fuck off. You deserve more. You deserve the whole cake and some fucking candles too.
view on x →Reframe from "I was stupid" to "I was misguided." You didn't know what you didn't know. Embarrassing? You put it all out there because you really cared. It's brave. Pathetic? You wanted it to work so you did everything that you could. What's pathetic about that? Forgive yourself.
view on x →before you scroll any further — inhale for four, hold for four, exhale for four. you made it this far. that counts for something. and make sure he's still blocked!
okay, i'm ready →NBC News profiled Hallie, revealing the person behind the anonymous account and how a painful breakup led her to start posting the affirmations and boundary-setting advice that grew into imdatfeminist.
Mashable spoke with the person behind imdatfeminist about the accounts and the response they've gotten from readers. Read the full interview at the link.
Elite Daily included imdatfeminist in its roundup of must-follow relationship accounts, describing Hallie's posts as a mix of empathy and tough-love honesty for anyone stuck repeating the same dating patterns.
coming next
Hallie & Mimi are hard at work on it right now — the manuscript is in progress, and this is just the beginning of what's coming.
follow along — the good stuff happens there first.
